Individual Sessions

An integrative trauma-focused approach for healing , clarity and real transformation.

“"Trauma compromises our ability to engage with others by replacing patterns of connection with patterns of protection"

— Stephen Porges

  • Find yourself in abusive or toxic adult relationships

  • Find you need to rescue people

  • Not able to connect to your own needs

  • Difficulty forming secure attachments

  • Difficulty setting boundaries

  • Avoiding feeling your emotions

  • Compassion fatigue and reactiveness

Do you struggle with any of these patterns?

  • People pleasing

  • Perpetually over giving in relationships

  • You don’t feel enough

  • Your self worth is dependant on external validation

  • Difficulty asking for help/ receiving love

  • Avoiding conflict - scared to speak your needs

  • Not sure of values

I support adults to heal past relational wounds so they can develop their sense of self and live in alignment with their values. As someone who has experienced childhood trauma, you may struggle to assert yourself, stay small when opportunities arise and have difficulty experiencing joy in your work and relationships. Therapy can help you understand yourself and give you the tools to grow.

How Psychotherapy and Counselling can help you

Trauma-focused psychotherapy and counselling integrates a variety of person-centered, evidence-based modalities tailored to each individual. This approach is designed to support people in recovery from attachment trauma or complex PTSD (C-PTSD), enabling you to have healthier, more loving relationship with yourself and others.

Through this therapy, you will develop compassionate insights into your different parts of self - your thoughts, feelings, and relationship patterns . This process helps identify and heal emotional wounds, creating a sense of lightness, health, and ease.

In learning to regulate your nervous system and strengthen your mind-body connection, you will discover how to be in your body again, be present with yourself and others and find deep connection and peace.

While traditional talk therapy addresses only conscious states, trauma-focused psychotherapy and counselling has an integrative approach which delves into both conscious and subconscious states. Whilst the psychotherapy aspect delves into your past, the counselling aspect focuses on tools that you can implement into your daily life.

By building a compassionate relationship with these parts of our self, we can understand how past painful experiences, suppressed emotions, and negative beliefs influence our current behaviour and relationships. From there, we create space for our True Self to thrive.

What can I expect?

This psychotherapy and counselling model has been developed with 3 phases to provide deep healing and a new way forward. It blends various evidence based somatic, expressive and relational techniques from IFS and Hypnotherapy, as well as Somatic, Attachment and Polyvagal therapies.

*The amount of sessions needed per phases depends on client needs and these phases are not always linear.

Phase 1 - Creating Safety/Resourcing/Identifying patterns

Our ability to create healthy relationships is determined by our ability to love ourselves – and in order to do that we must understand oursleves. We focus on creating safety in our body first, regulating our CNS and establishing resources (techniques) that make us feel more like our True self. In this phase we also focus on getting to know our protective parts.

Phase 2 - Emotional Processing/ Corrective Relational Experience

This stage uses a blend of BLS and the unburdening process from IFS to access emotions and memories of your younger wounded parts that contribute to your feelings of shame, unworthiness and unhelpful relationship patterns. This process utilizes memory reconsolidation, where we update old, unhelpful beliefs and process stuck emotions, and provide corrective experiences - paving the way for holistic healing and personal growth.

Phase 3 - Integration and Reconnection

With this stage we work together on a behaviour/habit management plan to step by step integrate all that you have learned into meaningful action so you can see and feel tangible results. This may include practicing internal and external boundaries with compassion.

I genuinely care about your growth and therapeutic outcomes therefore I provide;

A free 30 min follow up call two months after our sessions together end.

Cultivating self-compassion and a positive self -regard are the foundation of this work - from that place we can grow. I provide a safe, non judgmental therapeutic relationship from which healing and growth can take place.

Book a free 15 min chat to see if we are the right fit.

Testimonials

  • "Shellie is an exceptional psychotherapist who truly understands the complexities of trauma. Her personalized approach and dedication to my well-being have made a tremendous difference in my life."

    L. P

  • Testimonial for Cultivating Compassion

    "Working with Shellie has been a transformative experience. She created a warm and welcoming environment where I felt comfortable exploring my deepest fears and pain. Shellie’s skillful use of trauma-focused therapy techniques has allowed me to process my past in a healthy way and build resilience."

    J. K

  • Testimonial for Cultivating Compassion

    “"I cannot express enough gratitude for Shellie’s guidance and support through my healing journey. Her compassionate and non-judgmental approach made me feel safe from the very first session. Shellie has an incredible ability to listen and understand, which helped me to open up and heal”

    L.B

  • "I always felt heard and supported in our sessions, and Shellie provided a safe space for me to connect. Thanks to our time together, I have found a new sense of safety. I wholeheartedly recommend her to anyone in need of processing past negative childhood experiences."

    B.F

Are you ready for change?

Individual online or face-to-face therapy sessions.

Individual sessions are 60 mins and can be attended face-to-face at our offices or via online telehealth platform.

 FAQs

  • Counselling typically addresses specific issues or challenges, such as conflicts at work or home, stress, or self esteem, offering practical, solution-focused support. Sessions provide practical tools and coping strategies to help individuals reduce stress/manage their current situation.

    Psychotherapy, on the other hand, delves deeper into emotional patterns, behaviours, and underlying issues that may stem from past experiences or trauma. It is often a longer-term, exploratory process aimed at fostering personal growth and healing through self-awareness and emotional processing.

  • A basic understanding of parts work is helpful - information is sent to you before our psychotherapy session or you can check out on my blog for more info.

  • Sessions are not eligible under mental health care plans through your GP.

  • Sessions can be face to face or online depending on your needs and location. The same techniques can be offered online or in person. Many clients like to be in the comfort of their own home and find many benefits with online sessions.